Most of us go into the holidays with the best of intentions. We want to really connect with our friends and family and have a wonderful time. Unfortunately, it’s easy to get caught up in the idea that buying gifts is an obligation, a duty, or even a burden.
Regardless of your choice to give or not give gifts, it’s important to do it mindfully. What makes you feel good? Most true to yourself?
If you decide to give gifts, make a practice of thinking of each gift purchase as a celebration of the beauty of the recipient and your relationship with that person. It’s a much different giving experience than mindlessly buying and consuming out of obligation.
When spent mindfully, money is a spiritual asset. When you spend gladly, with love and joy in your heart, you bring the money and love back to you tenfold. Here are some mindful buying tips for the holidays, to help you connect with your best, generous, and joyful self.
Does it make sense to buy a gift card to Amazon? It’s not a super personal gift, unless you know the person really could use the gift card and loves shopping on Amazon (in which case, it would bring her great joy). But if you’re buying it because it’s the “easy” thing, you might instead consider making something for that person, something you know she would really love. What about brownies with her favorite candy in them, or a pair of earrings in her favorite color? Gifts made with the hands and infused with energy of the heart vibrate at a different level than a more generic gift.
|Mindful gift-giving brings joy to you and the recipient.
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Really paying attention to what people say they want or need, in passing conversation, is a wonderful way to gather gift ideas. For example, your friend comments that she needs a solution for an inconvenience she has been complaining about, such as an easier way to look at the GPS in her car. So you buy her a dash-mounted or mirror-mounted cell-phone holder. She’s thrilled because you have solved a problem for her, and because you paid attention to her and her needs.
Maybe your aunt has not had time to find that perfect pillow for the new couch. Or the pillow would bring her great joy and comfort, but she doesn’t feel like she has the money to spend on it. Rather than thinking in terms of, “I have a $50 minimum I have to spend,” make your gift-buying decisions about thoughtfulness. If you spend the time to find the pillow in the exact shade of blue she’s looking for, with just the right amount of “squish,” but it costs only $20, you’ve more than spent your minimum. You’ve spent time and energy. You were thoughtful.
If you decide a gift card to Target is the best gift, perhaps because it is easier for you or because you know that person will enjoy it, buy the card with grace and a blessing. Spend gladly, with joy in your heart, because you love and appreciate that person. It makes the buying experience magical rather than something you do by rote.
When you buy each gift this year, send the money out into the world with love and light. You’ll be less stressed and feel more peace and joy. Mindful gift-giving is a powerful spiritual practice.
To learn more about the spirituality of money and the power of manifestation, I recommend the bookCreating Money: Attracting Abundance, by Sanaya Roman and Duane Packer.