It’s tough to put yourself first when you’ve been taught to put others first: your kids, friends, spouse, patients, parents, boss, coworkers, siblings, clients… Everyone but you!
What do you notice when you’re always on the go, running from here to there to meet your “obligations”? What’s your energy level like? Are you able to focus on others’ feelings, and what they’re saying? In other words, can you really be there for the other person?
It doesn’t make sense to put others first if you’re burning yourself out doing it.
Enter spiritual self-care. Here are my top three tips for daily actions that will help you feel more balanced:
Spiritual Self-Care Tip #1
Breathe, really deeply. Even if it’s for just three breaths a day. Do it in the morning when you wake up, or in the middle of the day when you’re stressing out, and/or at night before you go to sleep. Breathe in and out through your nose.
Breathe in for as long as you can, filling the belly and not just the lungs. Breathe out for as long as you can. Stay with it. Feel the air moving in and out.
Bonus: You can tell yourself and your friends that you are meditating every day. Because it’s a mini-meditation, this breathing thing. Woohoo! Look what you did.
Spiritual Self-Care Tip #2
Intentionally do one physical act that is just for you, every day. Maybe that’s sitting by yourself for a few minutes in the morning, enjoying the smell of your coffee. It could be taking a walk at lunchtime instead of sitting at your desk. What about buying something at the grocery store that will give you sensory pleasure, like a ripe plum?
One physical act a day. A small thing or a big thing, but one thing.
Spiritual Self-Care Tip #3
Bathe yourself in golden light. You can do this at any point during the day, but at first it’s easiest to do when you’re lying in bed in the morning or at night.
Imagine a huge golden sun above your head. Put a magnet inside that sun and energetically pull to that magnet everything you need that day. Don’t think about it too much. Just call in whatever feels right:
- Connection to the divine love
Pull the golden sun energy down into yourself. Feel it from the inside out and the outside in. Let it fill you up. Feel it in your organs, skin, hair, chakras, and aura. Feel it from the tips of your toes to the top of your head. Let it radiate.
The whole practice can take anywhere from two minutes to several minutes, depending on how much you want to call into the magnet and how long you bathe in the light. (A slightly longer “bath” will allow in more of the energy you need right then.)
So there you have it—three ways you can practice spiritual self-care that take a total of 10 minutes a day. I guarantee you will feel more grounded, energized, and happy as a result. And guess what? That means there’s more of YOU to go around!